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♥ Gems, and Love. (Monday, January 25, 2010 / 2:26 PM)

Today's monday, and there is GEMS, one of the modules that i really look forward to. :) And I'm going to pass on some knowledge for you people out there which can tremendously improve your love life!

Ever found yourself saying or complaining "You don't love me!" to your boyfriend or spouse? Dont deny, I know you are guilty of this. If you are the lucky 10% or so who are not, then good for you, this means your boyfriend knows how to show his love to you. Of course, there is also the chance that the way he shows his love for you is coincidental to what you perceive love to be, and not that he really understands how you feel about love.

Sounds complicated? Well, it isnt. Ok, what I wanted to share with you guys is the fact that there are actually 5 primary love languages namely:

Affirmation
Acts of Service
Gift
Touch
Quality Time

I believe you didnt know that. At least not for me, till today. And it totally made sense to me. It cleared the air about why I felt the way I felt.

One reason why girls say "You dont love me!" to her boyfriend is because she doesnt feel loved. But that does not necessarily mean that he doesnt love her or didnt show his love. Chances are, the way they perceive love is different. And the way the guy shows her love is different from how she thinks of love. (This is also applicable to guys who say that to their girlfriends as well! I am just lazy to type him/her all the time.)

Number 1: Affirmation

For people who take affirmation as a sign of love, it is very important for you to to let them know about how good they are, how much you love them and how they make your life better. It is essential to tell them, be it through talking to them, or leaving them a note. It makes them feel like they are appreciated, and thats how they feel love emanating from their boyfriend.

Number 2: Acts of Service

There are also those who see love when people do things for them. It is especially important for these people to see that you actually bother and care enough to help them do things such as washing the dishes, bringing the dog out for a walk, picking up the mail and the likes. To you, these might be nothing, but to them, these little actions are love signals.

Number 3: Gift

Now, there are also people right here who think that love is based on the amount of gifts received. Not in any relation to materialism, but thats how they perceive love. It need not necessarily be an expensive gift, it might just be something small. Bottom line is that gifts show that they are being appreciated, and that you did not forget about them.

Number 4: Touch

For these group of people, touching is their way of showing love. It might be just a simple kiss on the cheek, a super warm bear hug, et cetra to you. However, it is a symbol of love to them. It shows that they are wanted. These people will feel neglected if there are no "interaction" between the two parties.

Number 5: Quality Time

Last but not least, these people believe that spending quality time together without any distractions is love. It means alot to these people even if it is just 15 minutes alone time. If you do something else while spending this 15 minutes with them, they get irritated, because you are in fact interrupting their "love".

So,after all that I've said, which love language do you speak? And does your other half speak the same language as you do?

xoxo

"The best around might not be the best for you." - DTMY